Original blog extracts
21.2.2008
Long shifts, hard work and a nightmare homelife (stopping at my parents), makes you reflect what you have in life and what is also missing.. I can honestly say the only thing that keeps me going these days are my daughter, my wife and our soon to be born daughter. Things are an uphill struggle right now in more way than one. I know if i close my eyes i wont wake up in time for work im so tired.. Im not compaining just searching for a direction, all the goals I have are blurred and although things arent bleak its difficult to sort a clear future. Im not being negative just feel off the track and need to find the direction to head in. Im much luckier than a lot of other people and im aware of that.. just wish things were a bit easier.. ive blisters on my feet, cuts on my ankles.. a cold and body aches all over from work.. and no time for rest.. but will plod on until something clicks..
WHO TO TRUST - 18.2.2008
Ive been back in the UK approx a month. A lot of things have changed while away..and although I expected things not to be easy I never expected things to be so bad.. Major problems with my parents and my ex partner making my life hell to see my daughter.
Ive never expected or asked for much from my parents.. being 1 of 4 and generally the outcast within the family.. my bros being a favourite of my mom and my sister my dad. So always expected to be last in line.. which has made me independant and generally hard to break. But returning to find many people that I used to call friends and those that should be my family.. doing and saying things I never expected, but to be fair most of it was done behind my back and never to my face (because i wasnt here to defend myself). The biggest problem that has always been a problem with my parents is expecting me to go back to my ex which for 11 years was mainly a nightmare in which I stayed for the sake of my daughter who is now held at rasom whenever my ex feels like it or isnt happy with a decision ive made. I wont go into great detail but things that were spread about me while I was away is the first time ive honestly felt the way I do.. im not Angry but Sad.. because its now about to cause a split in my family that I would never dreamed of doing, but im left with no choice.. I hate no one in my life.. but the time has come to say no more… no-one listens and no-one really cares.. so will just move my life on and forget my past. When my life was over with my ex my parents made my life as difficult as possible and literally hell..to try and force me to go back to my ex yet they didnt care for the reason I left in the first place theyre only concern is themselves. Anytime ive needed support in my life ive gone it alone until recently when I met my now wife April. Ive had many situations in my life where I could have been broken but the difference is there has always been just me to fix things, leaned on by many but there was never anyone to catch my fall. Which has made my life on a different trail to most because I cant fail.. I refuse I would rather die trying than give up. Im lucky I have a wife as good as April and I love her completely. Ive lots more to write.. but im a bit blah blah due to just coming off a 12hrs shift..
TODAYS REFLECTION - 11.02.2008
Many thoughts pass through my head today.. and like a jigsaw I am starting to piece a future.. There are 2 main concerns the first being that I hate being away from my home in the Philippines but miss Nicole who is here in the Uk. The other being business and the building of our family. The things most important are being as one.. being a family but also providing for that family. The responsibility ways heavy on shoulders.. Biggest current issue is where I should be.. work rates are higher in the UK but I cant build a business here as they will primarily need to be in near my home in RP. So where to start is the big question.. The website is beginning but still months away from anything that is of use. Product sales will take a long time to develop and make profitable. The first money for our lot is now begining to be gathered as soon as I land my feet in a job which has been so dry the last few weeks due to the slow period after Xmas. Life can be an uphill struggle and I expect it to be I wont fail and I refuse to fall.. But my path is still an overgrown hillside yet to form any footsteps on the trail, all fresh and new…
The Bleak truth - 11.02.2008
After my first couple of weeks in the UK i realise what sets the Philippines apart. Although many things are similar or the same in both countries there are certain factors that make me wonder what it is to be British these days. Watching on Tv a bishop agreeing with views on a medieval muslim law. The fire Brigade constantly under ambush attacks my teenagers, the most annoying fact the government fudged the figures to hide them. Tonight I sat and watched a program with “Ross Kemp in Afghanistan". Watching programs like these show how are soldiers seem very disadvantaged and left in a war that cant be won without a large increase in men on the ground. Its ok firing a missle or dropping a bomb. But the areas need to be secured not advance and retreat. The Taliban still hold the ground just lose a few numbers and they are quickly replaced from Pakistan. People are losing theyre lifes while NATO have troops that choose to avoid any conflict I hold my hat to France and Germany that seem to operate on Token Gestures yet will expect the assistance if things go wrong. Im proud of the troops serving theyre country out in Afghanistan and Iraq and just wish the politicians in power grew a spine and gave them the support they need instead of counting votes. As to down sizing the military its great having technology but the M.O.D. cant supply the basics.. so stop saying we are doing this and that.. and stop making excuses the truth is budgets are being cut and its putting peoples lives at risk. The truth also is that much of the equipment is outdated or missing where did it all go??? No doubt a few senior officers made a quick buck by selling theyre troops out somewhere down the line. Try prosecuting them instead of the old school network that leads to “early retirements” and the buck being passed to a Junior rank who will no doubt do the prison service.. while the officers keep theyre military pension and enjoy the fruits..
Many people may think I talk to much about politics and things that are wrong. But to be honest its not me talking to much its you not talking enough to change the UK to what it once was. We are sold out by europe, we are influxed with illegals and non-productive immigrants (no im not generalising im well aware that a lot of people are productive and work hard. But the fact remains there are so many people now in the UK that may have never even worked in theyre life time since they arrived from such places as Somalia etc.) Yet they need more medical assistance and generally are heavily involved in criminal activities. Im ashamed of what my country has become from what it once was. Not only that but the fact that it seems to get closer to the gutter each day without anything being proactively done. Politicians need replacing the ones presently in power are quite simply just sitting on a gravy train letting nothing change except the constanst insistance on tax this tax that.. fine this fine that.. but what happens with the money is it solving the problems that theyve took the money from?? Simple answer no!!
my sweet my love - 11.2.2008
Another day from far away i see my wife and wish i was there each day, her smile, her thoughts, her beautiful ways.. I thank god shes mine and i love her in everyway. Finding work is slow and the days seem long.. but my wife is there to keep me warm. The one thing in life thats true.. is the way she loves me and the way I love her too.
Soon I will be home once the months have passed.. to see our baby and to see how Kik laughs.. to see my wife and how proud she is for our baby to see.. and to know im a father.. glad and happy.
Welcome back to Britain - 2.2.2008
Welcome back to britain on a cold and rainy day.. but dont worry about the rain because the snow is on the way..
The car you left behind that day before you left the Isle you forgot to pay the tax and now its part of a pile..
The fuel has shot through the roof and shows that nothing is free but your always welcome here because its you and your cash we need..
There may be no sun this summer due to global warming.. but for everyday your here you need british gas to keep you warming.. not another tax but a price hike dawning on the price hike they had before you went away, but its fine you missed that one because we have plenty on the way..
Thank labour for making this land so poor taxing all the workers to help pay for the poor.. but there is a little problem within this very thought.. now im taxed so much surely i am poor?
Why the Philippines is my home 2.2.2008
Some of you may wonder why Philippines has become my home but its for many reasons…
When the plane first came into the Philippines and began to lower as it got close to Cebu for landing looking out the window all I could see was a beautiful place that I want to be. But that isnt what made me want to live there. But its a strange feeling as you leave the plane and head up towards immigration its shouting your Home!
But the secret to paradise is not staying 2 weeks its staying longer after 2 weeks you may forget the Philippines after heading back for work due to a few months later things are just a memory due to being preoccupied with bills, work etc. There are many that would say “the Philippines is corrupt and dangerous". But my answer to that is look at what has happend to the UK fuel prices sky rocket Gas,electric prices increase there is no sign of an end to the increases and the government doesnt seem to do anything about the problem. Makes me wonder where theyre shareholding investments are. The corruption in the Philippines is through the country I admit but in the UK the government tax “working” people to death to accomodate those that dont and the “social” service pensions are protected to keep theyre voters happy so who is corrupt?? The none working immigrants that destroy the NHS system and are overflowing the british prisons (over 60% not being british born and bred) but also these people vote labour.. Its a spiraling back road where the UK is falling off the map things are getting more expensive but less and less is done to put things right. Makes me wonder how much Tony Blair took in his back pocket from Bush. Its strange we are fighting wars so called “war on terror” but whats it to do with Oil and what is the Bush family and theyre criminal associates involved with? So my answer is this…
The corruption in the Philippines.. “Its cheaper!!”
Dangerous ? “Have you seen the crime figures in the UK?” which is not including the hidden or fudged information murders and gang killings dont hit the press much but head to an A+E on a friday or saturday night in a major city and count the gun and stab wounds.
Increasing costs “they will always be cheaper because we dont need heating we dont need a car because i wont work 60 miles away like the UK".
but finally its people.. not only my wife and family because I couldnt have better in laws they are all very nice and loving but even the man on the street. I cant go out more than an hour without hearing a “Hey Joe” or “Kano” in the background but always smiles.. I was in Malaysia on route to London stopped to talk to my wife on the net and all i could hear was some babbling old retire complaining that he wanted on the net and how selfish everyone was for not making way for him. A british retire.. first person ive heard complain in months and its some silly impatient old English guy. Then as I was sorting my passport for immigration a woman was swearing about some official yet another English woman.. these sort of people are not only the reason I dont want to be in the UK but also the reason we get so much bad press. Anyone whos suffering with stress or just wanting a holiday would strongly advise take a trip to the Philippines!! you wont regret it.. It changed my life for the better. The one thing I find funny is my mix of language with Cebuano,Kano english and english as i try to remember words I havent used for a while. What has happend to the UK that so many people are leaving as soon as they can? I wish all the people well in Britain and have nothing against anyone personally I havent been happy here for years as I watched things deteriate Im proud of my heritage which is probably why it annoys me so much on how its been sold out by the UK government.
Thoughts and flights 1.02.2008
Im sat on a plane on route to London..
Many Years ago I took an infill job while waiting for something better to come along a guy started the same day as me and we became friends. Although I forget his name I remember the time we chatted while having lunch and understand now what he was going through. I couldnt understand why this educated guy was in a dead end job but today it all became clear. He was unshaven looked tired and wearing a chequed blue shirt. At the lunch we discussed his wife who was in Thai land and he had spent 2 years so far trying to sort visas and was still going through the process yet again after a refusal. He hopped to Thailand when he could to see his wife and this is why he was in this dead end job, it was a hop. A job not lasting more than several months before going back to Thailand so he could be with his wife. He was so tired and worn out due to the stress and worry of the paperwork process and due to missing his wife so much. At that time there was no Yahoo or Msn only expensive telephone calls, letters and emails if you were lucky enough to have dial up internet. Where he is now I dont know.. I hope he is sat somewhere with his wife and kids taking things easy, he had worked so hard for what he wanted in life. But while sat in this 747 with the lights dimmed and my pen writing this in my diary I flick to the photos my wife has put in my diary and know every minute apart is a minute too much.Everything I have with me defines us from my very thoughts to my wedding ring. In the Philippines i would remove my ring due to it getting so hot went I slept. But now it wont leave my finger for 2 reasons the main one being I want to always feel close to my wife and the other being that we are almost ready to land in London and the air is cooler and looking out the window at 6am its telling me its going to be a cold lonely few months.. I worry about my wife being so far from me with Kik due so soon… but I just hope she knows that I may not be there in person but im never far from her side and my thoughts of our child and my wife April are always in my mind.